“As our options expand, so do our desires - and unmet desires in particular.”

“So we are said to be what our desire is. As our desire is, so is our will. As our will is, so are our acts. As we act, so we become.”

“Do you also believe that what gives our lives their meaning is the passion that suddenly invades us heart, soul, and body, and burns in us forever, no matter what else happens in our lives? And that if we have experienced this much, then perhaps we haven’t lived in vain? Is passion so deep and terrible and magnificent and inhuman? Is it indeed about desiring any one person, or is it about desiring desire itself? That is the question. Or perhaps, is it indeed about desiring a particular person, a single, mysterious other, once and for always, no matter whether that person is good or bad, and the intensity of our feelings bears no relation to that individual’s qualities or behavior?”

“A blanket could be used to suffocate our secret desires. And what do I secretly desire? I desire suffocation, and that is why I must suffocate my desire. 
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“The problem for us is not are our desires satisfied or not. The problem is how do we know what we desire.”

“If God were our one and only desire we would not be so easily upset when our opinions do not find outside acceptance.”