“There was a time I stopped talking, just like you. My reasons were a little bit different, but... I think the feelings of being ashamed of myself and hating myself... are the same. Here it says "to like yourself." What does that mean? Good things---how are you supposed to find them? I only know things that I hate about myself. Because that's all I know: I hate myself. Even if your force yourself to find good things... it feels so empty. It doesn't work that way. People like your teacher just don't get it.I think... when you hear someone say they like you for the first time... then you can begin to like yourself. I think when someone accepts you for the first time... you feel like you can forgive yourself a little. You can begin to face your fears.~Yuki”
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Quote Analysis
In this quote from Natsuki Takaya's "Fruits Basket," the character Yuki expresses his feelings of self-hatred and shame. Yuki reflects on a time when he stopped talking and compares his struggles to those of the listener. He questions the concept of liking oneself and finding good things about oneself, admitting that he only knows things he hates about himself. Yuki suggests that hearing someone say they like you for the first time can begin the journey of self-acceptance and forgiveness. This quote emphasizes the importance of acceptance and how it can lead to personal growth and facing one's fears.
Modern Relevance
In this quote from Natsuki Takaya's manga "Fruits Basket," the character Yuki expresses the struggle of accepting oneself and finding self-worth. This theme of self-love and acceptance remains relevant in today's society, where individuals often face pressures to conform to unrealistic standards and may struggle with feelings of inadequacy and self-hatred. Yuki's journey towards self-acceptance and the idea that acceptance and validation from others can help in this process resonate with many people in the modern world who are on their own paths to self-discovery and self-love.
Example of Usage
In this powerful quote from Natsuki Takaya's work, a character named Yuki eloquently expresses the struggle of self-acceptance and the impact of others' acceptance on one's ability to forgive themselves and face their fears. The emotional depth and vulnerability in this passage resonates with many readers.
Reflection Questions:
This quote from Natsuki Takaya's work raises important questions about self-love and acceptance. Reflect on the following questions to deepen your understanding of the themes presented in the text:
Have you ever experienced a time when you stopped talking or felt ashamed of yourself? How did it impact your self-perception?
What do you think it means to "like yourself"? How do you currently view yourself and your qualities?
Do you agree with the idea that hearing someone say they like you can help you begin to like yourself? Why or why not?
How do you think self-acceptance and forgiveness play a role in facing your fears and overcoming challenges?
In what ways can you cultivate self-love and acceptance in your own life? What steps can you take to embrace and appreciate yourself more fully?
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