“What others think of us would be of little moment did it not, when known, so deeply tinge what we think of ourselves.”
“When we place more value on what other people think of us than on what we think of ourselves, it’s a formula for misery.”
“pride relates more to our opinion of ourselves, vanity to what we would have others think of us.”
“We develop a sense of self by coming to see ourselves in the reflections of how others see us - what they reflect back about us, how they view us, what kind of person they think we are and so on.”
“We can rarely tell others what we really think about them--not just because it would so wound them, but also because it would so wound ourselves.”
“A person may be proud without being vain. Pride relates more to our opinion of ourselves, vanity to what we would have others think of us.”