“They're proud of their own excellent upbringing... and by this they mean that they have all learned to speak, behave and think in exactly the same way.”

“Boys, men," she said. "They're all the same. They think that this [their manhood] is something special and they're all so proud of it. They do not know how ridiculous it is.”

“All photo albums are the same. Just like all dreams are the same. They mean the world to the person who owns them and they're boring as dirt to everybody else.”

“It is the same with anything - you have to learn through your own experience, paying your own way. You can't learn it from a book.”

“We can learn to work and speak when we are afraid in the same way we have learned to work and speak when we are tired. For we have been socialized to respect fear more than our own needs for language and definition, and while we wait in silence for that final luxury of fearlessness, the weight of that silence will choke us. (227)”

“They all have excellent resumes... So what I’m trying to find out is how they will behave under pressure.”