“A coach yells at the kid he thinks can improve but the coach will not yell at the kid who he/she knows won't.”

“There's a lot of talk these days about giving children self-esteem. It's not something you can give; it's something they have to build. Coach Graham worked in a no-coddling zone. Self-esteem? He knew there was really only one way to teach kids how to develop it: You give them something they can't do, they work hard until they find they can do it, and you just keep repeating the process.”

“educators best serve students by helping them be more self-reflective. The only way any of us can improve—as Coach Graham taught me—is if we develop a real ability to assess ourselves. If we can’t accurately do that, how can we tell if we’re getting better or worse?”

“Coach Graham rode you pretty hard, didn't he?" he said.I could barely muster a "yeah."That's a good thing," the assistant told me. When you're screwing up and nobody says anything to you anymore, it means they've given up on you.”

“My coach knew there was only one way to develop (self esteem): You give children something they can't do, they work hard until they find they can do it, and you just keep repeating the process.”

“self-steam ? He knew there was really one way to teach kids how to develop it : You give them something they can't do, they work hard until they can do it, and you keep repeating the process.”

“Kids need to know their parents love them. Their parents don’t need to be alive for that to happen.”