“Whatever news we get about the scans, I’m not going to die when we hear it. Iwon’t die the next day, or the day after that, or the day after that. Sotoday, right now, well this is a wonderful day. And I want you to knowhow much I’m enjoying it.”I thought about that, and about Jai’s smile.I knew then. That’s the way the rest of my life would need to be lived.”

“In the fifty years my parents were married, in the thousands of conversations my dad had with me, it had just never come up. And so there I was, weeks after his death, getting another lesson from him about the meaning of sacrifice—and about the power of humility”

“It's not helpful if we spend every day dreading tomorrow ~Jai”

“I've found that a substantial fraction of many people’s days is spentworrying about what others think of them. If nobody ever worriedabout what was in other people’s heads, we’d all be 33 percent moreeffective in our lives and on our jobs.”

“It's not about how to achieve your dreams, it's about how to lead your life, ... If you lead your life the right way, the karma will take care of itself, the dreams will come to you.”

“There's a lot of talk these days about giving children self-esteem. It's not something you can give; it's something they have to build. Coach Graham worked in a no-coddling zone. Self-esteem? He knew there was really only one way to teach kids how to develop it: You give them something they can't do, they work hard until they find they can do it, and you just keep repeating the process.”

“You may not want to hear it, but your critics are often the ones telling you they still love you and care about you, and want to make you better. ”