“i think charm is the ability to be truly interested in other people”

“I love scandals about other people, but scandals about myself do not interest me. The have not got the charm of novelty.”

“Charm is the ability to insult people without offending them; nerdiness the reverse”

“Charm is the ability to make someone else think that both of you are pretty wonderful.”

“Loving kindness is a form of love that truly is an ability, and, as research scientists have show, it can be learned. It is the ability to take some risks with our awareness-to look at ourselves and others with kindness instead of reflexive criticism; to include in our concern those to whom we normally pay no attention; to care for ourselves unconditionally instead of thinking, "I will love myself as long as I never make a mistake." It is the ability to gather our attention and really listen to others, even those we've written off as not worth our time. It is the ability to see the humanity in people we don't know and the pain in people we find difficult.”

“My being charming…is not quite enough to induce me to marry. I must find other people charming - one other person at least.”