“But in Japan, there are two very specific words to define these selves: tatemae, or the presentation of your public self, and honne, how you really feel. ”

“there are at least two distinct selves, the public and regal self, the private and human.”

“That was the thing about words, they were clear and specific-chair, eye, stone- but when you talked about feelings, words were too stiff, they were this and not that, they couldn't include all the meanings. In defining, they always left something out.”

“The day you learn to be publically specific in your prayer, that is the day you will discover power.”

“True love is not a wish list but a “wish feeling.” And the number one feeling—even before the feeling of love—is the feeling of safety. Without feeling safe, you will never feel true love. You must have trust in your partner’s character and prioritize finding a partner who is honest, communicative, and empathic—someone who values growing—so you can feel safe to vulnerably be your truest core self with him—and then together the two of you can support one another to grow into your best possible selves.”

“Words only reveal half of your heart. Service defines the other half. Character is the combination of the two.”