“Whoever loves becomes humble. Those who love have , so to speak , pawned a part of their narcissism.”

“A religion, even if it calls itself a religion of love, must be hard and unloving to those who do not belong to it.”

“It is that we are never so defenseless against suffering as when we love, never so helplessly unhappy as when we have lost our loved object or its love.”

“A love that does not discriminate seems to me to forfeit a part of its own value, by doing an injustice to its object; and secondly, not all men are worthy of love.”

“Where such men love they have no desire and where they desire they cannot love”

“The element of truth behind all this, which people are so ready to disavow, is that men are not gentle creatures who want to be loved, and who at the most can defend themselves if they are attacked; they are, on the contrary, creatures among whose instinctual endowments is to be reckoned a powerful share of aggressiveness.”

“We are never so defenseless against suffering as when we love.”