“Most people are resentful of the happiness of others and yet we seem to seek validation from others in order to allow our own happiness… it’s easy to see the problem with this system.”

“Happiness is something that comes from our own hearts, not from other people.”

“Each man has his own sorrows not known to others;Real man handles problems and make it seemed easy,So others will see things trouble-free, but in fact it’s truly heavy.”

“We know from daily life that we exist for other people first of all, for whose smiles and well-being our own happiness depends.”

“The saying goes that history repeats itself; personal histories do the same. We can gather the lessons of others’ lives through observation, conversation, and by seeking advice. We can use the automatic system to find out who the happy people are, and the reflective system to evaluate how they got to be that way. Pursuing happiness need not be a lonely endeavor. In fact, throwing in our lot with others may be a very good way of coping with the disappointments of choice.”

“As we lose ourselves in the service of others, we discover our own lives and our own happiness.”