“To me, the persistence of my grandfather's rituals meant that he was unchanged, running on discipline and continuance and stoicism. I didn't notice, and didn't realize, that the rituals themselves were changing, that there was a difference between the rituals of comfort and the preventive rituals that come at the end of life.”
“Rituals help us change modes.”
“Nothing in life is ritual.”
“He realized that the ritualized world he had dismissed as feminine was in fact civilization.”
“Every day my mother had tea. My dad has his ritual cigar. They had their evening cocktail. Those rituals were done nicely, with flair and feeling.”
“Drugs?""Rituals. Are you messing around with drugs?""No. But maybe rituals.""Drugs might be better.”