“Emotions are humanity's motivator and its omnipresent guide. (36)”

“The limbic connectedness of a working psychotherapy requires uncommon courage. A patient asks to surrender the life he knows and to enter and emotional world he has never seen; he offers himself up to be changed in ways he can't possibly envision. As his assurance of successful transmutation he has only the gossamer of faith. At the journey's end, he will no longer be who he was, and his guide is someone he has every reason to mistrust...only human love keeps this from being the act of two madmen. (190)”

“Knowing someone is the first goal of therapy. Modulating emotionality - whether by relatedness or psychopharmacology or both - is second. Therapy's last and most ambitious aim is revising the neural code that directs an emotional life. (176)”

“The skill of becoming and remaining attuned to another's emotional rhythms requires a solid investment of years.”

“The first part of emotional healing is being limbically known - having someone with a keen ear catch your melodic essence. (170)”

“The great thing about human language is that it prevents us from sticking to the matter at hand.”

“The greatest of all the accomplishments of 20th century science has been the discovery of human ignorance”