“Willingness to possess is the beginning of..love hurts.”
“Ammu loved her children (of course), but their wide-eyed vulnerability and their willingness to love people who didn't really love them exasperated her and sometimes made her want to hurt them-- just as an education, a precaution.”
“When I hear that "Possession is the grave of love," I remember that a religion may begin with the resurrection.”
“The possession of anything begins in the mind.”
“The hurt is in the act of possession: we are too small in mind and body to possess another person without pride or to be possessed without humiliation.”
“Simply touching a difficult memory with some slight willingness to heal begins to soften the holding and tension around it. (74)”