“I've cared for heaps of people, but not to marry them' she said. 'I suppose I'm too fastidious. all my life I've wanted somebody I could look up to, somebody great and big and splendid. Most men are so small.''What d;you mean by splendid?' Hewet asked. 'People are-nothing more.”

Virginia Woolf
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