“Somehow the pain, the losses, the hurt, the bad, Godis able to transform these into something they could have neverbeen, icons and monuments of grace and love. It is the deepmystery how wounds and scars can become precious, or aravaging and terrifying cross the essential symbol of relentlessaffection.”“Is it worth it?” whispered Tony.“Wrong question, son. There is no ‘it.’ The question is andhas always been, ‘Are you worth it?’ and the answer is andalways, ‘Yes!’ ”

“How can you call it love when it hurt you so badly?""It was love because it was worth it.”

“To deny our errors is to deny ourself, for to be human is to be imperfect, somehow error—prone. To be human is to ask unanswerable questions, but to persist in asking them, to be broken and ache for wholeness, to hurt and to try to find a way to healing through the hurt...Spirituality accepts that "If a thing is worth doing, it is worth doing badly.”

“In answer to a question you asked me not a long ago, a question I didn’t answer at the time…it is worth it. Love is a perilous dance too, you see. And if we stop dancing, we’ll die.Don’t ever stop dancing.”

“It never stops hurting, the big losses never do, it becomes a part of your bones. It rips you apart and leaves you to figure out what to do next. It becomes a part of who you are and runs through your life like thread, coloring everything you are and do. It has informed how I choose to live, what I do, how I love. You will ache and you will hurt but you will be feeling, remembering how much love there was and how much there still is; death can never touch that. You heal and the wound closes, becoming a scar to remind you how precious things are and how well you were loved, how well you can love if you let yourself.”

“There are four questions of value in life... What is sacred? Of what is the spirit made? What is worth living "for, and what is worth dying for? The answer to each is same. Only love.”