“Learning, and especially unlearning, can take place only in the absence of defensiveness.... [W]e can drop our defenses only when we love and are loved.”
“It is not the absence of defensiveness that characterizes learning teams but the way defensiveness is faced”
“Your only defense can be you were so madly in love you weren't responsible for your actions.”
“We can only learn to love by loving.”
“The only defensible war is a war of defense.”
“Trouble is our only defense against boredom.”