“Submission is not about authority and it is not obedience; it is all about relationships of love and respect.”

“Love isn't about forcing submission,Grif. Its about...doing for the one you love. It's about their happiness over our own.”

“Remember, that choosing to stay on the ground is a choice to facilitate a relationship, to honor it. You don't play a game or color a picture with a child to show your superiority. Rather, you choose to limit yourself so as to facilitate and honor that relationship... It is not about winning and losing, but about love and respect.”

“I do understand what love is, and that is one of the reasons I can never again be a Christian. Love is not self denial. Love is not blood and suffering. Love is not murdering your son to appease your own vanity. Love is not hatred or wrath, consigning billions of people to eternal torture because they have offended your ego or disobeyed your rules. Love is not obedience, conformity, or submission. It is a counterfeit love that is contingent upon authority, punishment, or reward. True love is respect and admiration, compassion and kindness, freely given by a healthy, unafraid human being.”

“Faith is about submission and trust, not about will and determination.”

“What was so miraculous about a relationship that was based more on my gratitude than on mutual self respect?”