“What is a man?What is a woman?Why are men and women attracted to each other?Why do they desire each other?Love...what is it?”

“Love is what happens to men and women who don't know each other.”

“What persuades men and women to mistake each other from time to time for gods and vermin is ideology.”

“By what right do men exercise power over each other?”

“If we are to develop an intimate relationship, we need to know each other's desires. If we wish to love each other, we need to know what the other person wants.”

“Why do we focus so intensely on our problems? What draws us to them? Why are they so attractive? They have the magnet power of love: somehow we desire our problems; we are in love with them much as we want to get rid of them . . . Problems sustain us -- maybe that's why they don't go away. What would a life be without them? Completely tranquilized and loveless . . . There is a secret love hiding in each problem”