“I can't help you if you won't help yourself.”
“You can't help a man who won't be helped. (p. 364)”
“He that won't be counseled can't be helped.”
“He that won't be counseled, can't be helped.”
“Sometimes in life, you fall down holes you can't climb out of by yourself. That's what friends and family are for-to help. They can't help, however, unless you let them know you're down there.”
“...and when somebody comes up to me with big hair and gobs of makeup on and says, 'Can I help you,' it's all I can do not to scream, 'Bitch, you can't even help yourself.”