“If it wasn't painfully difficult, you did it wrong!”
“... life is difficult and painful, just by its very nature, not because we're doing it wrong [pp. 17-18].”
“...She was, in fact, often wrong--and knew it. Life became difficult when those who were often wrong did not know it.”
“I'm not saying you did the wrong thing. I'm not even saying it wasn't something I'd thought of doing, myself. But even if it was the just thing to do, or the fitting thing, it still wasn't the right thing.”
“Why wasn't it more difficult? ... Shouldn't some things be difficult?”
“Life was short, and if it wasn't sweet you were in the wrong place with the wrong people”