“It isn't about how much physical weight you think you need to lose, it's about the mental weight that blocks you from loving yourself”

“You’re never as smart as you think you are when you are winning and never as dumb as you feel when you are losing.”

“The healthy life: It’s not just about losing the weight; it’s about losing the mentality that got you there.”

“It was from a weekly visit to the cinema that you learned (or tried to learn) how to strut, to smoke, to kiss, to fight, to grieve. Movies gave you tips about how to be attractive (...). But whatever you took home from the movies was only part of the larger experience of losing yourself in faces, in lives that were not yours - which is the more inclusive form of desire embodied in the movie experience. The strongest experience was simply to surrender to, to be transported by, what was on the screen”

“What, I ask, drives me to disorder? How can I diagnose myself? All I feel, most immediately, is the most anguished need for physical love and mental companionship -”

“The ablity to hurt someone is usually in direct proportion to how much that person cares about you.”

“But what we're really trapped by is perceptions. You think you need to lose weight for someone to love you. I think if I gain weight, no one will love me. What we really need is to just stop thinking of ourselves as bodies and start thinking of ourselves as people.”