“All blame is a waste of time. No matter how much fault you find withanother, and regardless of how much you blame him, it will not changeyou. The only thing blame does is to keep the focus off you when youare looking for external reasons to explain your unhappiness orfrustration. You may succeed in making another feel guilty aboutsomething by blaming him, but you won't succeed in changing whatever itis about you that is making you unhappy.”

“All blame is a waste of time. No matterhow much fault you find with another,and regardless of how much youblame him, it will not change you.”

“If you can keep your head when all about youAre losing theirs and blaming it on you,If you can trust yourself when all men doubt you,But make allowance for their doubting too;!”

“When you plant lettuce, if it does not grow well, you don't blame the lettuce. You look for reasons it is not doing well. It may need fertilizer, or more water, or less sun. You never blame the lettuce. Yet if we have problems with our friends or family, we blame the other person. But if we know how to take care of them, they will grow well, like the lettuce. Blaming has no positive effect at all, nor does trying to persuade using reason and argument. That is my experience. No blame, no reasoning, no argument, just understanding. If you understand, and you show that you understand, you can love, and the situation will change”

“And you may blame me for your feelings, but it isn't fair to blame me for how you've chosen to behave.”

“People make mistakes. You can‟t go around blaming people for how your life turns out. The only person you got to blame for how your life turns out is you.”